Single Mom’s have a few major issues that just don’t go away when you need them to. If you’re a single mom, that means you have children to care for, you probably have a job, and you need services that are dependable. If you work away from home, the services you require are even more important. You can’t leave your kids with just anyone and missing days from work will cost you a job.
The double edge is, without the job you can’t support your children, and your children need you too. But how can a single mom cope?
This actually works for either parent who has sole custody of children. But it’s particularly effective for single mom’s.
Locate a work at home mom, a friend who is still at home with small children, or an elderly woman who wants some part time income. Become friends and get to know them very well. You’ll want to know their habits, their characteristics, and the way they handle your children. They need to be a second YOU. When you can’t be there for your children, the other woman can be.
Creating a Mommy Network within your community is your first resource. There are several places to find members of your Mommy Network, but you’ll have to initiate communication and get it started.
Churches – Go to Sunday School and get to know other Mom’s in your Sunday School class. Not only do you have prayer support (a very IMPORTANT part of single parenting) but you have instant networks of friends and resources. Call them, have tea, get together for a pajama party with kids, and invite them to join you for lunch (go Dutch, everybody has a budget to uphold).
Play Groups – Find a play group for your kids on a Sunday afternoon. 30 minutes at the park, McDonalds, or some other fun place to hang out gives your kids a break, and you a moment to connect. Take the time. It pays great dividends.
Libraries – Introduce yourself to other moms while your kids participate in story hour. Get names, phone numbers and addresses. Invite them over for a candle party, or other activity that moms like to do. Have a play room set up for kids, and enjoy your time together with frequent baby checks.
Those are just a few ideas for Mommy Networks. This is an important step to maintaining your ability to cope with life as a single mom. Don’t let it pass because you don’t have time. You don’t have time not to create a Mommy Network in your neighborhood.