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If you’ve suffered through a divorce, joblessness, or parenting of a problem child, you’ve probably given up on having confidence, spirit and style again. You donate your time to others and suffer through the reflection in the mirror, thinking your time has come and gone. But you don’t have to suffer. You can be the woman you are inside, on the outside again.

Spirited —-

You probably remember the confidence you had “back then” before the days of distrust, struggle and strife, but can you reclaim that confidence and spirit? Of course you can. It really is up to you. How you feel at any given moment is less important than what  you do with how you feel. As women, we often push our desires down and give up on the opportunities that come our way long before they stop coming. We shove those desires down and stabilize ourselves by thinking we had our chance, that opportunity belongs to others. ‘

Nothing could be further from the truth.

Those opportunities coming your way are meant for you. They are designed for you to take advantage of and acknowledge at whatever stage of life they are offered. You’re NEVER too old for opportunities to come your way or to benefit you as a person. You can BE whatever you choose to be. You simply have to decide to take those opportunities. Make that decision today, to acknowledge and accept the next opportunity that comes your way with assurance and determination to be the woman you are.

Chic —-

A few days back, I ran into an old friend. She didn’t look much different from the last time I saw her. Her hair style hasn’t changed much, her clothing style hasn’t changed much, but she had an aura about her that I recognized right away. It was new. Age old experience drove the smile and lit up her eyes. She’s a young woman, filled with a love of life and wisdom.

That’s what chic is made of….

Chic is a sense of direction that comes with wisdom, experience and a deep knowledge and love of life. You can have that same chic purpose of existence at any age by simply listening to your inner voice, doing what you know is right and asking for advice when you need it from those you trust.

Understand that with experience comes wisdom and the ability to be chic. Your choice to acknowledge those qualities will make the difference. Allow that spring in your step to become genuine. Acknowledge the wisdom in your life. And let the light shine. Your eyes need sparkle and wit. Smile, from the inside out. You know it’s in there. Let it out!

Beautiful —-

Most families have aging characteristics that can be changed by attitude. Several years ago, I noticed that one of my cousins has taken on the characteristic frown lines of her mother. OUCH! I came home and looked in the mirror.

There comes a point in time when YOU are responsible for the LOOK on your face. If you’re always squinting and frowning, guess where your wrinkles will be. SMILE! Laugh lines are easy to recognize and they’ll give you a different sort of aging “look” that  will be easily recognized as beauty.

Beauty really is more than skin deep. It comes from deep within your heart. If you’re filled up with love, laughter and the ability to remain optimistic, even in times of trial, it will show on your face. Erase that frown and smile, smile, smile!

You’re probably hoping I’m done – but I’m not quite done.

“You are right now, exactly who you chose to be.”

 All our lives we make plans, choices, and take action based on the choices we make. If you’re not who or what you WANTED to be, look back at the choices you’ve made, and determine what went wrong. Take responsibility for who you  are right now and you can change your future. You can make a different choice, once you acknowledge that you’ve made the choices that got you where you are right now.

Take responsibility for who you are now, and in the future, your choices will CHANGE who you become.

Otherwise…

If you’re blaming someone else for who you are right now, you’ll still be blaming someone else and you STILL won’t be who you want to be. If it isn’t YOU who is responsible, YOU can’t change.

You determine who is responsible and YOU can change.